I want to know what happened to the lazy days of summer? I feel like I can not catch my breath. Anyways.....................
I had an epiphany this week. I have come to the conclusion that I am my own worst enemy. I can never work on just one thing I have to have multiple projects going and then feel like a failure and whine and complain when the truth is I set myself up for failure. So this week I am going to work on accepting the things I can not change.
The COLD hard truth:
1. You can not undo years of doing little in a short period of time.
2. I have come to realize that my house is lived in. Which means things that I do accomplish get undone quicker than I would like.
3.My house will never be perfect and I have to stop looking at my house with the what will others think instead I have to do what works for us.
4. My kids are getting bigger everyday. I need to take time out from trying to get the house in order to spend time with them.
5. If my MIL chooses to do the things I ask of my niece that is her choice. I already have three kids of my own to pick up after and do not need to add a forth. So the clothes she (niece) left laying all over my back porch and shoes on the front will get placed in a box to go upstairs for someone else to deal with. ( I am not saying this to be mean or showing any disrespect I just have enough on my plate and need to let go of this situation)
6. I have gotten a lot of good advice on ways to get my kids to help out more. I am going to try to incorporate them this week and write a blog post on what works for my family.
7. I am a low energy person. Which means I need to learn to pace myself so I don't burnout. If I get all gung ho in the beginning of the week I am more likely not to accomplish much at the end of the week.
8. I hope everyone has a great 4th of July!!!!!!
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Great job! We set our own rules of what perfection is and I have a feeling we are much harder on ourselves than anyone else would be on us. Knowing our limits is a good way to go a long way.
ReplyDeleteHow is your task a week coming along?
Letting go of the issues with the 19yo sounds like a terrific way to handle the situation. Your MIL isn't doing her any favors but if it helps you out then what will be will be.
Thanks Shell for always being so encouraging. I didn't get to add a task this week, life happened, water heater went, hubby's job is short drivers so he's been gone most of the week and they called yesterday to say he would be on call for the weekend. I figure I will try this coming week to add another.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing a great job! I agree that it is hard to accept the things you cannot change. I have to face similar cold hard truths, not easy to do.
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Wow! You are really thinking and being realistic. The one about not being able to undo years in a short amount of time is so true.
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